Major life changes such as a job loss, redundancy, new career or job can be scary. The unknown always is. We get into a routine and fall into our familiar comfort zones. Many of us like to remain there; however, transition is an inevitable part of life no matter what steps you take to keep it to a minimum. Therefore, it makes sense to address this inevitability and share with you what I’ve learned about facing new things. Keep reading to discover more about dealing with and getting used to change.
Change Allows for Personal Growth
Despite the exhaustion it can cause, change almost always causes us to grow in some way and increases our self awareness. You gain new coping mechanisms, learn about personal characteristics you never knew you had. You can also discover life lessons that will serve you well in the future and help you become more resilient. I know the circumstances around this growth can sometimes be difficult, and I don’t mean to make light of what is happening in your life. Just know that it is possible to learn something and to change for the better during the hard times.
It Will Get Better
Hard times always seem their worst in the moment, while you’re living them. It can seem impossible to consider a future when the problem will be gone. What might help is to think about a time when you overcame difficulties and faced change head on. Recall the feelings you had at the time, how you managed them during the rough moments and how you felt once the change began to fade into routine. That’s the thing. A life transition or disruption is only new for a time, and then it becomes a part of your everyday reality. You adapt and accommodate to fit this new thing into your life which can be diffcult at first but stick with it. You learn different activities, and the new eventually becomes old news. Learning the ropes at a new job is something that comes to mind. We’ve all dealt with the unfamiliar policies, activities and routines of a new role, working with a brand new set of people and personalaties. Eventually, we learn the new role and and everything becomes familiar. It gets better but it does take time dependent on how resilient you are and flexible in your thinking.
How to Cope
In the meantime, there are ways to cope. The way you look at and think about your situation has a huge impact on how you feel about it. Try to think of this time of transition as something exciting or a chance to grow. Sometimes looking at it as a challenge to overcome can make it seem much more stressful. Also, be gentle with yourself. You don’t have to learn everything all at once. Adapting to change takes time. Allow yourself to feel your emotions, and don’t give yourself a hard time. It’s okay to feel frustrated, scared, sad, lonely or even angry. Finally, be sure to reach out for help if you need it. You don’t have to be a super hero. Allow friends or loved ones to step in and take on some of your burden. Even having a listening ear at your disposal can alleviate lots of stress. A fundamental way of helping you cope is to build your resilience strength and ability to cope better with challenging times, making the best outcome more likely.
Resilience is your ability to overcome, steer through and bounce back when adversity strikes (Karen Reivich and Andrew Shatte, Resilience Factor).
Resilience is associated with longevity, lower rates of depression, and greater satisfaction with life. It involves thinking more flexibly, looking forward with active hope, managing your emotions, managing overwhelm management, problem solving, strengthening your support network, an learning tried and tested strategies, tools and insights to support you in a positive way. It helps you to understand yourself better,providing you with the tools you need to help you face and cope better with stress and overwhelm.
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