All of us fall prey to negativity at some times in our lives and especially when we are going through difficult times such as in current weeks. There have been many studies done that show negative thoughts can lead to negative things happening. Think about a day when you got up late, and you find yourself saying “wish had have stayed in bed today”, this is not going to be a good day. The rest of the day seems tarnished with negative events occurring.
When you catch yourself thinking negatively there are a few things you can do – actually practice – that can help you overcome the negativity and get yourself into a happier place.
1. Adjust the tone of your voice, both inner and outer – When you find that your speaking or thinking tone is harsh and negative, change it to a lighter and more positive tone. Positive language can make you feel better.
2. Smile – The best way to diffuse a negative situation is to smile – really smile, with your eyes and your entire face. It can lift a mood almost instantaneously and help to relieve stress too (and it takes less facial muscles to smile than to frown)!
3. Meditation – Finding some time for yourself to meditate or just relax and restore your energy levels can do wonders for your thought patterns. When you combine some yoga stretches, Tai Chi or deep focused breathing in a quiet place even for just 10 minutes, you can clear your mind and start to feel a little better.
4. Help someone else .- Doing something nice for someone, offering help or support can fill your heart and mind with happiness and inner contentment. And, how can you think and project negative thoughts when you’re so happy?
5. Choose positive people to be around – Over the years, I have found this one is so important. I find as you age, you become more selective in those you choose to be friends with. You may have to be around negative people for whatever reason e.g. work, hobbies etc, and you may have some in your own family, but the friends that you choose should be positive ones who help you put things into perspective when you are thinking negatively. They pull you up and offer encouragement and support and believe in you and above all generally have a positive outlook.
6. Keep a Gratitude Journal. – Those who have had to overcome great obstacles in their lives say they kept and still do keep a gratitude journal and wrote a few things in it every day that they were grateful for. It helped to get them through bad times.
7. Exercise – Get yourself out for a nice stroll in the fresh air. Feel the sun or rain on your face. Getting the endorphins flowing in your body will make you generally feel better and more positive. You could choose an online or offline class of yoga or tai chi for example, a jog or a walk to the shop and back.
8. Listen to Music – Dancing and singing are also proven mood lifters. You don’t have to be good enough for “American Idol” or “x-factor.” Just dance or sing on your own unfiltered and see how the stress and negativity can melt away.
9. Take a break from Social Media – These days and especially the present time, there is a lot of negativity expressed on social media. Sad stories of current times can fill your thoughts with negativity and sadness. Remember you don’t need to read these stories, you can choose to have a break from social media and the news in general just to give yourself some head space to live in the hear and now.
10. Remember you are in Charge – You are in charge of the choices you make in life and you can either choose to be a negative or a positive person to go through life. Remember you are in control of your reaction to the things around you. Start focusing on the things you can control and forget about those you can’t.
Thinking more positively about life in general and taking charge of your own thoughts thereby increasing your self belief, is a wonderful positive confident start to preparing yourself to CONSIDER A NEW CAREER CHANGE